Remembering who you are will help to heal ‘adrenal burnout’…
Last year I wanted to learn how to make my business global – weeks before I was flying out to Bali for a month long Entrepreneurial Incubator trip, as my starting point, a friend asked me “Do you know who you are?” and, “Why are you heading to Bali?” My answer to her was, “Of course I do”. I knew, I was a mother, wife, and busy woman running a clinic and this was the trip where I would create great changes to my business (I knew who I was, or, so I thought).
But, these questions interwoven with a last minute cancellation for my entrepreneurial dreams tripped me up—unknowingly, I revisited this very question.
After I had taken a couple of big breaths and spoken to my husband, we came to the conclusion that I could still do all I intended in Bali, just without the program (cancelled trip), as I had essentially already given myself the time to do it.
The first few days in Bali was record breaking in the amount of work I got done. I hit the ground running and by day three I had pretty much done three months worth of work.
But, it was day three that I was introduced to the flow of Ecstatic Dance, the freedom of scooter riding to new places, meeting new people, and setting up a session with a shamanic healer. Through all of these experiences, parts of me lit up.
I experienced feelings in my body I hadn’t felt for a while; exhilaration, exploration, adventure and connectedness.
The insightful session with the shamanic healer led me to a weeklong women’s circle exploring our relationship with the feminine, the divine, the masculine, the earth, and ourselves.
It was a wonderful contrast to my entrepreneurial scientist identity, who I was.
I returned to finish off my ‘to do’ list and was looking to update some of my videos. I saw (myself) the woman looking back at me in those earlier videos screamed adrenal fatigue—hiding behind burnout!
There were so many obvious similarities with her (me) and the thousands of women I treat for adrenal fatigue, and I hadn’t even noticed.
The experiences I was having felt as though they were taking away layers I hadn’t even noticed I had accumulated. The thing is, I didn’t go to Bali to remember who I was, as I thought I already knew. I truly believe who we are can surprise us—if we just allow it.
But we can’t all go to Bali to accidentally remember who we are so the following exercises are set to start you on the process.
You might be wondering why we are starting here, with you. I mean ‘healing naturally from adrenal burnout’ you might be thinking, well where’s the things I need to take?
Can’t you just tell me the shortcut?
The thing is, how we are in the world, and how we heal or fix things can be similar to the globe of the world itself. You see if we just tried to heal from the outside, it’s a lot of work for a small amount of reward and it will only work for a short period of time, it might look nice to others but the foundations are rocky.
Whereas if we go back to the core and work our way out, then we have alignment with who we are!
Finding your values is a way of recognising some of the choices that we make and why we make them. And maybe some of the hiccups we’ve had in the past with wondering why we choose some things and to do them so easily, yet others seem so hard to stick to.
As Dr John Demartini says, it all comes down to what you value.
Now, a lot of us believe we value things like family, money, and maybe we even think we value our health. But the easiest way to see what we really value is to look around you.
I invite you to complete the questionnaire about your surroundings and discover a little deeper within.
Answer the following questions honestly—be true to yourself…
- If I came to your house, what would I see?
What colours do you have around you… white, stark, and clinical? Or are there warm, earthy tones?
Is there vibrancy?
Is there clutter or is there space?
Are there family or pet photos on the wall?
Are there pieces of memorabilia from traveling, art, books, technology?
- If I came into your kitchen, what foods would I find?
Would I find healthy fruit and vegetables or ready-made meals?
Do you take daily exercise; if so, what do you love the most?
- If I went to your office, what would I find?
What would I find in your inbox?
What are the things you subscribe to?
What are the pages that you like on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest?
- What do you spend your money on when you’ve got that last $5.00 or that last $20.00 note?
What is it that you prioritise to spend money on and what could you not live without?
What’s that thing that you must have?
- What would I see if I looked at your clothes?
Would they be a particular style, like sporty, fluid, or business like?
What are the particular colours that you wear?
- What do you spend your time on?
What do you think about during the day?
What do you find yourself daydreaming about; holidays, a new car, seeing your friends or is it spending time doing a particular activity?
Where do your conversations turn to?
When you end up having those conversations, those big, deep, meaningful conversations or even the gossipy kinds of conversations, what’s the topic that you always end up turning to?
I will now ask you again… Who are you?
With all this fresh in your mind, I invite you to write a list of your core values. (What words, phrases, themes appear most frequently?)
Now, I’d like you to check out what the themes are. These are the things that you value. You’ll notice that there’s generally a common thread and this is how you prioritise what you spend your time and money on, this is how you make your choices. You may notice that healthy food, or health, or maybe even yourself in general, may not appear high on your list.
This is why many of the things that you’ve done in the past might not have stuck when it’s come to your health.
Having awareness is the best way forward—to heal.
From awareness you can then make an informed choice and have the option to choose something different—change is growth! Enjoy and honour yourself through the process.
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